Photography by Isaiah Walk
“Is There Life After Birth asks the viewer to recognize the shame and blame these girls, and many like them, experience, challenging the common perception of teenage mothers. Mary’s Shelter is changing lives two at a time and “Is There Life After Birth?” is changing lives one audience at a time.”
Delia Cruz Kelly, The New University
Director's Note
I was 16 and pregnant. I remember being scared and angry and ashamed. I felt I had disappointed my parents, my teachers, and the leaders of my church. People at school started gossiping about me and when I was 2 months pregnant, I walked up on a group of girls, that I thought were my friends, just in time to over hear them talking about what a slut I was and wondering how I could have been so stupid. I wasn’t sure what I was going to do.
I was lucky to have supportive and loving parents and they supported whatever decision I made about my pregnancy. I could have the baby and keep it, have the baby and give it up for adoption, or have an abortion. The choice was mine and it was a huge choice to make at 16. In the first couple of months when I was deciding what to do, a question kept ringing inside my head. Is there life after birth? In other words, what would my life be like if I became a mother at 16?
I did choose to have my son and raise him myself. It wasn’t easy. I graduated high school a year early and started college at 17. My son was four months old on my first day of college. Rather than juggling class and work and homework with what party to go to on the weekend, I juggled work and class and homework with pumping breast milk and 2am feedings and bath time and diaper changes and all the other things that come with being a single mother to an infant.
Most of the time when people hear about my life, the reaction I get is surprised. Surprised that I finished high school. Surprised that I went to college. Surprised that I raised my child on my own. Surprised that I am not the disaster story that the media often shows us about teen mothers.
I’ve often wondered what life has been like for other teen mothers and that is what lead me on the path to finding Mary’s Shelter and creating this piece of theatre.
What I found was a group of young mothers who had walked a very different path than me in life before becoming pregnant. But even though our lives before giving birth were very different, I found that we shared many of the same fears, questions, and prejudices from society in our walks as young mothers.
With the national conversation about women’s rights heating up and with so much debate in our society about when life begins, does anyone think about the life of the mother? What if the mother is not only a teenager but is also in the foster care system? For these young women, Is There Life After Birth?